By Lyndee Rose Basilio
Life is an unpredictable journey; it is a series of ups and downs. A lot of setbacks will surely block along our way, and sometimes it is a series of near misses. There are things that would surely hinder us on what we want to do and there are things that would be an impediment on where we want to go. But, as other people say, life is life, we cannot just say, “ Avada kedavra” and the problem is already solved. Life is not that easy, that with the flick of our finger, all the solutions for our problems will be solved. Life is not about the fiction stories we often read in books that are commonly run by the figment of imagination of the writers. It is not a fairytale that always end with a happy ending. Life is a bunch of stories, stories that would end sooner or later, but as one chapter ends, it is a beginning of another beautiful story. Here are the just random things I learned in my life so far:
12. Intellectual people learn from their mistakes but really intellectual people learn from the mistakes of others.
People who are smart will surely learn a thing or two based on their own past experiences. But people who are really smart will not let the mistakes of other people be their mistakes in life too. They will use the experiences of others as their lessons in life. The mistakes of others especially of close friends will be used by them as an avenue for their realizations in life. They will not follow the wrong things other people have done instead they will get the lesson from the experiences of others; they will use the mistakes of others as their learning opportunities.
11. Competitions in life are normal, but one thing we should not compete in is our relationship with others.
Whether competition in grades, in our office works, in position in our organization or even competition in mundane things, we should always value the relationship. While, it is true that competitions in life are normal and it will help us to strive harder, we should also be mindful of our relationship with our classmates, officemates and even organization mates for having good and genuine relationship with others are more difficult to find than the success we will soon achieved. Competitions are not bad; it will help us to do well and to strive to be better than we are yesterday. We are challenged by our competitors; there is a sense of embarrassment if we are left out within the group. Because of this, we will strive harder for us not to be left out, for us to excel to stand out within the group we are in. but, along with this, we often times forget that we also need to value the relationships we have within the group, we should not forget that as a person we need to value people and the relationships we have with them for life is not always about winning or losing sometimes, who are with when in times of failure.
10. Sydney Sheldon is a male author
When I was younger, I am not really fond of Sydney Sheldon, I prefer reading the books of Jude Deveraux, Nicholas Sparks and John Grisham. So, I believed that Sydney Sheldon is a female who always write stories about women and women.
Of course, those who are non-readers will tell you Sydney Sheldon is a female, but those who are bookworms and hate the romantic stories of other authors will tell you that Sydney Sheldon is actually a male author whose main storyline revolves about women. In fact, I am also shocked when I saw his picture.
9. We are very afraid when we are very slow, but actually, we should be afraid when we are standing still.
Often times, we always hear people say, you work very slowly, time is gold. But actually, we should be glad that person is actually working, as the old aphorism, “ Slow but sure.” What should alarm us are the people who are already satisfied in the situations they are in, that they are not already doing something to uplift their lives or to fix the problems they have. It is as if they are only standing still in a waiting shed doing nothing and just waiting for San Pedro to open the gates of heaven. It is in standing still that we should be very afraid for we are doing nothing than of being slow.
8. Watching Boy Abunda asks questions in his TV program as if he would improve our lives well in fact it is not
Watching Boy Abunda, in his interviewees on Sundays in his TV program show as if what he is trying to tell in his interviews would really improve our lives, and the situation of our country today well in fact it is not. Whatever Boy Abunda says it would never improve the condition of our country he might as well stop for a peaceful world. And watching him asks questions, I learned, that too would not solve the crisis in the Philippines.
7. We can take mindless photos of almost anything
Before, selfie would be a waste of film, a lot of people would weep upon seeing a number of out of focus and overexposed snapshots. But today, because of selfie phenomenon, we can take mindless snapshots of almost anything we want. Before, our parents would surely whack us in the head. But, because of our fast pace technology, we can easily capture anything with the use of our smartphones, iPod, tablets, laptop and camera without being mindful of the film. Because of these gadgets, almost all people at any place would surely take mindless snapshots and few minutes after it is already posted in facebook, instagtram or twitter.
6. No dream is too crazy for anyone to achieve.
Every dream is worth a try. Every dream is worth to be pursued. Just what we always say in Filipino, “ libre naman mangarap, lubus-lubusin na. ” whatever be our dream, we should not be afraid to pursue it, it may sound crazy to others, we should not be ashamed to give it a try and continue dreaming. For life without dreams, even if it is the craziest dream, for without it, it isn’t a life worth living.
5. We will not pass every test we will take
It is true, we will not pass every test we wanted to, there are times we will get the highest score, there are also times we will flunk the exam. We are not always on top. But, we are all humans, each experience we have should make us stronger and braver. And the experiences we have and are into should and will help us grow.
4. The world is filled with hate
In every corner of our world, there are crimes, war, crises and illnesses. These are the ramifications of selfish people, who wanted all the richness in the earth. They do all these things to satisfy their wants. They only think of themselves, they are not mindful of their fellowmen, they don’t care if a lot of children are already dying in India because of hunger, they don’t mind if a lot of people died because of the war. They don’t care on others’ welfare as long as they are fine, as long as they have something to eat and as long as they are in their comfortable pod. Even the world is filled with hate, we must dare to give love and accept to be loved. The world is filled with hate, but with hateful things and experiences come the gamut of feelings- dare to love we may never know.
3. There are people who want to pull you down instead of pulling you up
There are people who just want to pull you down more often than to help you build up. Wherever we are, we will always face negative criticisms along our way; there are always people who are not happy with our success, those people who wanted to pull us down. Let us just understand them. It is human nature and it is a proof that we are above them. Let us just face whatever situations we are facing by staying true on what we really want to achieve and want to happen in our life.
2. The number one thing you don’t want to have is the regret that you should have done more when you were younger.
The thing is, when we are young we have a lot of dreams, when one failure strikes us we will already feel afraid. We are already afraid to try, afraid that we might encounter another failure, afraid, that people might already call us losers. But, the more we encounter failures, it should make us build our better self, it should help us grow and not the other way around. We should never be afraid, we should never stop trying, we should never give up pursuing our dreams and goals in life, we should never stop dreaming and acting on it to make it possible for the greatest mistake we might have is when we stop dreaming and when we stop acting on what we really want in our life. And greatest regret we might have is the regret of not trying for it is much worse than failure.
1. Try things, take risks and follow your dreams despite the naysayers
Impossible is just an opinion. We should break the barriers of doubt, we should never be afraid to try things, to take risks and embrace the experiences we have and use these experiences as our learning opportunities. Never be afraid to dream and to follow that dream. There will be times when people will mock us, there are times when people have negative things to say in front and in back of us, there are times when feel like quitting, but we need to be strong, we need to hold on, we need to continue pursuing our dreams and our goals in life. Those who are successful in life were never afraid; they never stopped trying until they succeeded. They never quit. We just need to keep going, for most of the times, our belief that we can, coupled with our determination, it often tend to help us achieve our dreams and goals.